On October 15, 2016 I married Jarin Gage Watkins. Our one year anniversary is today, so in honor of that I thought I would write a post about our wedding day.
Many girls have their wedding day planned out at a very young age. They have this well-thought-out idea about what dress they want to wear, the location, and even the man. But not me. I didn't think much about my wedding day until I was engaged and even after we were engaged it took me forever to make any real decisions. (Procrastination queen, here.) Although we were engaged for about a year and a half, there was only "real" planning going on for maybe 6 months... and it didn't all go as planned anyways. Does anything ever go as planned?...
We had planned to do our wedding in a church friend's back yard. It was big and full of beautiful trees. Plus it was in the fall, so it was going to be perfect. However, a couple days before the wedding, it rained. It rained hard. We decided the day before the wedding to move it into the church, because we (mostly me. LOL) were afraid it was going to be too muddy. Can you imagine dragging your white dress through mud? No thank you.
So we made a last minute change. Very last minute...
The day before the wedding, a group of us headed to the church to decorate. We ended up pulling together something pretty beautiful if I do say so myself. All the decorations were either CHEAP or DIY! (PRAISE!)
I went to sleep that night in a hotel with my best friend and my 2 sisters (my bridesmaids and maid of honor). I wasn't nervous at all. In fact, I was probably too calm.
But all of that changed the morning of the wedding. I had butterflies in my stomach and my mind was running crazy. I wasn't nervous, because I was getting married. I was nervous because things were changing and all eyes were going to be on me, which I don't like.
My girls and I got ready in the hotel and then headed to the church. The whole time, I was running around like a crazy lady, because I wanted everything to turn out right. I was feeling so nervous and anxious. I just couldn't set still.
A few minutes before it was time to go, my mom, my sisters, and my best friend gathered around me to pray for me, Jarin, and our life together. It was one of the best moments, because right then I felt the peace and comfort that I needed.
Finally, it was time to walk down the aisle with my daddy. It was such a surreal experience... one that I hadn't thought much of, but am so glad I got to experience.
The first thing I saw when the church doors opened was Jarin. (Trying not to cry obviously. hahaha) This moment that we had been waiting for and planning for was happening and it happened so fast. I walked down the aisle to "where we gonna go from here" by Mat Kearney. We read our vows, which were just traditional and we poured the sand. Then we heard the words, "you may kiss the bride" and "This Kiss" by Faith Hill started playing. (This was my favorite song as a child, so I just had to!)
At our reception, we spent time talking with our friends and our family. We cut the cake, which fell over by the way... But once again, things usually don't go as we plan. We just laughed it off. I mean, we knew something like that was bound to happen. If you knew Jarin, then you would understand! He's just a big "goofball".
After everything was over and we were sent on our way, we couldn't believe what had just happened. We started things off at 2:00 and everything was over by 5:30. It was like we blinked and the next chapter of our lives had begun.
We decided to drive back home (an hour and a half) to spend our first night in our apartment and to pack for our honeymoon. But first, we obviously stopped at Panda Express to eat some food. It's one of our favorite places. Maybe on our anniversary, we'll eat Panda. Maybe it will become our tradition. Who knows?...
So after almost a year has passed, here are some lessons I have learned from my wedding day and my marriage.
- The wedding day is just a day. Yes, it's a special one, but really it's the lifetime of marriage that means the most.
- Planning is not the most important thing in the world. Things happen and plans change.
- You don't have to spend a lot of money to have a beautiful wedding.
- Your spouse is just a person too. They're not perfect and they have bad days.
- Love is a choice. And even when you don't "like" someone, you can still LOVE them.
I can't believe a whole year has passed and I'm so grateful for the man that God sent my way. I want to remind all of you who are single, God will send someone when the time is right. While you wait, pursue a relationship with God that will last beyond an earthly relationship. For those of you who are married, remember to love your spouse as Christ loves you. It's a daily sacrifice that is worth every bit of it.
"And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity."