My husband and I have been married for just over a year and over this past year we have been learning to live together and figure out what works for us. We've probably all heard the saying, "never stop dating your spouse". Well I believe that to be true.
So whether you're married, engaged, dating, or single as a Pringle I'm here to give some insight into relationships, dating, and keeping things interesting.
First, I'm going to give some fun winter date ideas to get you and your significant other through the season. Although these ideas aren't necessarily original, you can gear them to your style. Also, always remember to take pictures. Pictures are awesome for memories and for making a scrap book/photo album for the two you. (Which is also a good date idea or gift idea.)
Second, I'm going to give y'all some relationship tips that I have learned through 3 years of dating my now-husband and 1 year of marriage with my husband.
Winter Date Ideas:
Something that my husband and I do is we take turns planning dates every week. So one week I'll plan the date and then the next week he'll plan the date. This way, it never falls on one of us to always be the one making decisions and planning the dates.
1. Go see the lights! -- DUH!
Christmas lights are a fun and free way to spend time with each other. There is most likely a big light display in your town or a nearby town that you could go to or there are always Christmas lights around the neighborhood to drive around to look at. If you're in the Tulsa area, I'll link a few of my favorites! Rhema Lights. Williams' Wonderland.
2. Coffee! -- Need I say more?
Go get coffee before Christmas lights or just go talk over coffee. Coffee is a fun and casual way to enjoy each other's company. You get out of the house and into a new environment, while also enjoying a cup of deliciousness. It sounds simple, but sometimes all you need is something simple to have a good time. Make it a little more interesting by finding a coffee shop that you've never been to before. There are coffee shops out there with a really awesome vibe, so you don't just have go to Starbucks. (Although, I love Starbucks!)
3. Game Night! -- Monopoly anyone?
I feel like game nights are looked over, because of the simplicity. But instead of going out, stay in, pull out a few games, and start having fun! If you don't have any board games/card games, just download a game on your phone. We enjoy trivia crack in the App Store. It's free, fun, and competitive!
4. Ice Skating! -- Just don't fall...
This probably seems super cliche, but I promise ice skating is fun! I was nervous to try it, because I was sure I would end up in the hospital, but I didn't. (haha) If you've never been ice skating, you have to try it! It usually doesn't cost too much to go and they provide skates! Be sure to take pictures to remember this "cool" date.
5. Shop Till Ya Drop! -- Did I hear sales?
Set a price limit, go to the mall/store together, and pick out something the other would like. Then "surprise" each other with the gift. you picked out. The gift could be serious or it could be funny... just something that the other would enjoy or spark up a memory.
1. "Jobs" within a marriage are overrated
My husband and I do a pretty good job of sharing responsibilities. There are some things that one of us is better at than the other (him=cooking, me=cleaning) and that we actually enjoy, so we tend to do those things regularly. But as for the other "jobs", we share them. We both do the dishes, take out the trash, go grocery shopping, do the laundry, put gas in the car, etc. I think when there are too many labels attached to an individual it can get... well stiff. This may not be the case for everyone, but for us it's better if we share responsibilities fully.
2. Read the Bible together
Be in the word together. This is important and is something that we sometimes look over. But there is such a difference in our relationship when we are in the word and when we are lacking in that area. You can find a devotional to do together or a bible study, but the important thing is to read God's Word. Get into it, dwell in it, live it.
It's common to hear that "communication is key" and I believe that. But we can't stop with communication. There has to be listening and action. When we communicate with someone, it's because we want them to listen and then we want them to act. It does no good to communicate with someone if there is nothing that follows. Listening shows care, while action shows connection. When we communicate correctly, we develop a deeper connection. So remember to listen well and act with intentionality.
That's it for this blog post! I hope enjoyed it and I hope that you have learned at least one thing!
If you enjoy "relationship posts" let me know and I'll do more. A big part of my testimony involves the topic "realtionship", so I have a lot to say about it. If you have any questions about dating, marriage, relationships, etc. email me at email@example.com or just leave a comment.
Have a very Merry Christmas!
Peace and Love,